The Fears of the Use (and abuse!) of Alcohol in a LDR

3 days to go and Dodong will be HERE! I'm am really quite excited but this excitement seems to have triggered some weird emotions. I get these when I'm PMSing, but I just finished my period. So where the heck is this all coming from?!?Homecoming anxiety????

Because of the upsurge in emotion (So ok, I'm blaming it on the hormones) Dodong and I had another long discussion, or rather debate, AGAIN about the effects of alcohol.

He used NOT to drink, and now drinking is part of his desert lifestyle (Is there really a need for this? Pls help me understand!). Dodong now drinks at least 1x a week. So ok, he does tell me when he drinks and he is usually with his usual set of friends. But still the idea makes me iffy, sparking a fear in me. I guess I'm still not 100% over the trauma. I must admit I am afraid that something bad might happen in one of the events of inebriation.

Here are the reasons why alcohol scares me…

Alcohol makes people do stupid things.

It does! I swear this does not only happen in the movies. I know friends who have just seem to have lost their senses (Bye-bye brain!) when drunk. Especially for those who really cannot control their alcohol plus give in to peer pressure. Yes, I believe it still happens in this day and age (NOTE: Post Puberty, Quarter Life stage).

I witnessed Dodong get drunk and remember all his horror stories. Horror for me! Because he ends up sleeping in the flat of his girl friends, instead of driving home. Okay I know it's much safer to sleep in that to drive. But still! Sleeping in a girl's flat! Ugh!

The point is: I am afraid that Dodong would engage in intimate activity with some random lady (oh, I'm not discounting men or gay people here too) while he is away. Oh, God forbid.

Alcohol causes casualties.

That's why there is a law against drunk driving. I dare not go into the victim stories of drunk driving. Because this is like: DUH! And heck, he can get caught by the Arabian Police! Afraid! Hehehehe! I would also coin the effects of the stupid activities as emotional casualties. Whatchathink?

The point is: I am afraid that Dodong might get into an accident while he is away.

It's been more than a year of being away and I still have these fears eating me up everytime Dodong drinks with his friends. So that makes it almost every week right? Crazy! Sigh. I just want this to completely go away…

How do you deal with the fear of the use and abuse of alcohol in a LDR?

Love the distance,

Inday I. Nagintay

P.S. I'm still excited about his homecoming ayt? 3 days to go!

Love the distance,

Inday I. Nagintay