"Why is everybody suddenly getting married???"
Posted in LDR Advice on 02. May, 2010
Weddings, weddings and MORE weddings!
I read this status on Dodong's sister's FB page. When you are in your late 20's (of maybe when you hit your 20's), this is the question (well, one of the many questions) that bugs you. All of a sudden, you see relationship changes on Facebook: from in a relationship to engaged and from engaged to married, pre-nup pics shared, same-day edit videos shared, photobooth photos tagged.
But still, I would like to reiterate NOT EVERYBODY IS GETTING MARRIED. Because I ain't married yet. And lots of my late 20-something friends are not married as well. Therefore, everybody is NOT getting married…
WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED?
So I am sure that is the follow up question. Ohhhh the dreaded, dreaded question.
My answer: SOON.
There are times (a LOT of times), I must admit, I feel so left behind. How come I'm not getting married yet? How come she's getting married and I'm not? We have a "better" relationship than them right? I guess every girl still has her white lace and fluffy chiffon gown, sparkling champagne, and fondant cake dreams. But Dodong and I do need our time to prepare.
AFTER ALMOST 8 YEARS, WON'T YOU GET MARRIED SOONER THAT LATER?
Syempre, the follow up questions will not stop: "But you've been together for almost 8 years now?!? Isn't that enough time already?"
We still have a lot to prepare for, especially on the financial end as we would want to take charge of our life together 100%. And I do mean, 100% because it will be about us 100%.
I've done some computations and a wedding alone would cost a couple hundreds of thousands of pesos. Darn. Why did getting married become such a big business all of a sudden? Yun ata dapat ang question. Raising funds for a wedding in itself is no joke. Especially if you'd be the ones to pay for the wedding, which I suppose should be the case, as persons who are already earning money and not dependent on the parentals.
Plus there's the life after the wedding right? Hay.
As I would always say: "Patience is a virtue". Kaya nga Inday I. Nagintay di ba? Marriage will soon fall into place in God's perfect time.
Don't worry my dear readers, Dodong and I will have our chance very soon. Just pray with us 
Love the distance,
Inday I. Nagintay
Love the distance,
Inday I. Nagintay
Priorities. Is it more important to have a fantabulous wedding or to prepare for life AFTER the wedding? These days I am super surprised at the amounts couples spend! I think it's better to be creative about a wedding, get your friends to help rather than hiring a coordinator, make your own invites and souvenirs, etc. It's just ONE day after all! And it's super memorable if the wedding is different!
@ Tita Patsy: Super naging business na din ang weddings. Nahuhulog ako sa upuan when I hear how much people spend (or rather how much their parents' spend) for the wedding. I'd like to think I am more practical and would rather spend on the life AFTER the wedding
filipinos kasi love tlaga to follow what is uso… not really what is right for them.
that's why weddings have become like that.
ang question: are u going to conform?
yun ang question.
@ Crickette: True. Well, I must say I am not the person who will try to conform. I think I've always been the non-conformist