Top 3 Long Distance Relationship Fears
Posted in LDR Advice, LDR Squabbles on 21. Aug, 2010
Oh how I wish lang...(Image borrowed from www.snowdesign.com)
Oh how I really wish I had absolutely no long distance relationship fears at all. But I have them and I can summarize these into 3. And these are the root of all my headaches in the long distance relationship arena of which I am currently experiencing at the moment (annoying sleepless nights and bouts of rage).
Can you guess what these are? Here goes in reverse order…
Top 3: Dodong gets into a bad accident resulting in *gulp* (I can't even say it)
Well, don't you fear of losing (as in losing to death) any one of your loved ones? I do. A LOT.
So I do ask Dodong to text me when he gets to the office and when he gets home, especially when he goes out late at night. You see, Dubai is infamous for its number of daily vehicular accidents. Do you know how many per day? I guess lots of reckless drivers in Dubai. Reckless drivers who also drive me crazy even if a gazillion miles away.
It's a long distance relationship fear of mine to receive a phone call / an email / a text message that something really bad has happened to Dodong and I need to pick up his "box" at the airport. Yikes. Parang pang sine lang yun. But very possible right?
Top 2: Dodong and I fall out of love with each other.
Dodong and I live our own lives. We have been for the past 8 years. He has his life and I have mine. Sometimes I am afraid that some day, one day when we are both very busy with our own lives, we'd wake up not in love with each other anymore. Just the thought makes me want to cry…Boo.
Distance can make you stronger or break you apart. Long distance relationship fear this is. Hay.
Top 1: Dodong gets into a relationship with another person (woman OR man)
This is the last and definitely not the very least long distance relationship fear of mine. This is the ONE that eats me up real bad. Because again, I really didn't believe in the possibility of a happy and successful long distance relationship because of that family trauma. I won't go into much detail though. Basta when the cat was away, the mouse went out to play.
Either one party (stereotypically the guy…which is most of the time right?) will meet someone and then ditch the attached party for another. Hassle. Sometimes maybe not even ditch the "real relationship" but keep them both so he can have his cake and eat it too. You get the picture right? Not very pretty.
HAAAAY. Sometimes I just wish these would just all fade away in a snap. But it's not as easy conquering these fears on a daily basis. It craaaazzzzzyyyyy!
Do you share the exact same fears? Or do you have more?
Love the distance,
Inday I. Nagintay
Love the distance,
Inday I. Nagintay
tsk tsk tsk tsk… this is not just a long distance fear. but i hear u girl. basta u be strong and you keep God at the center of your relationship and everything will be alright
@ crikky: thanks dude. girl, love u girl!
I feel you. these are my fears too. the #1 fear that you said happened with my ex boyfriend. what a jerk. grr. now that i have my new bf, which is LDR again,im scared that it would happen again (which i hope not) and Just recently, my boyfriend got into an accident. Imagine my fear and my worry when i received a message from his mom saying he's in the hospital to think that not long before that we we're just texting? gosh! that sucks.. i didnt know what to do. i'm in the US while he's in the philippines trying to fight for his life while i cant do anything, which sucks even more.
@buds: WAAAAAAHHHHH! ISCURRY! Huhuhu! Is he ok now?
I can definitely relate to this post!
My top fear: Yen falls out of love with me.
It's the worst fear ever. My heart aches so much just thinking about it. I can't really imagine waking up without her in my life. Call me OA but this is how I really feel.
Thanks for another great post, Inday!
Justin